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Ask Yourself One Question - Marriage Equality

We've all been there.  Maybe it was in high school. Maybe it was college or after.  Hell, maybe it was in 6th grade.  Remember that first time, you had a special someone and it ended and you had no control and neither did they.  I remember leaving my school in eighth grade.  I knew I'd only be miles away, but deep down I knew I'd never get to date Jenny.  We'd been in school for five years together and I had a crush on her for two. Distance tore us apart. Then there was the girl in high school.  I liked her, but she didn't like me that way.  Friends I was told.  The pain consumed me.  I laid awake thinking about her.  It wasn't meant to be and I had no control and it tore me apart.  The girl in college.  I liked her, but my age wasn't what she was looking for.  She was 19 and I was 26.  Age tore us apart.  The girl in camp, I was too afraid to talk to. Years went by and who knows if she was interested. I was afraid of having my heart broken.  Fear tore us apart.  The girl I thought was the one.  Her baggage, plus mine, made it so a brief vacation for her, turned into the last time were together.  Circumstances tore us apart.

The last three days I've thought about all the loves I've had.  Some brief. Some long.  All mattered in my life. All taken away by some force of nature, circumstance or timing that I couldn't for one second control.  It tears me apart just thinking about it now.  I think about every one of them and what could have been.  What if that timing was perfect and the stars were aligned and then something magical happened?  We fell in love or stayed in love.  We lived happily ever after?  Then, what if all those stars, were suddenly struck from the sky.  What if because these women were men, I was told it wasn't legal for us together?  What if our love was so strong it bonded us like no two other had ever been bound together?  What if that love was deemed illegal?

When we are young, we are patted on the head, maybe hugged and told by our mothers and fathers that one day we'll find our true love and spend the rest of our lives happily married.  Our two souls, becoming one, for eternity.  Now what if that dream of love was taken away, because of something we couldn't control.  What would we do? Would we give up?  Would we turn our backs on our hopes and dreams?  Would our friends and family abandon us, because a small percentage of powerful people in our society viewed our love as vile and a sin? Would we abandon each other?

Of course we wouldn't.  Nobody should ever have to be ashamed of who they love.  That is what we are asking people to do.  We are asking little kids who have grown up to accept their parents as liars.  We're asking them to accept that they are so different they can't have what most of us have.  We're asking them to admit their differences are unnatural.  We're asking them to accept that our religions, our governments and society in general doesn't view them as equals.  We're asking them to accept that all men and women aren't created equally and they are those which are unequal.

Now ask yourself one simple question.  Would you accept this for yourself?

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