Last night a friend mentioned that Ryan Gosling might be cast as the lead character in the movie adaptation of the uber-popular 50 Shades of Grey. After wincing in pain at this thought, I decided to try and find some excerpts from the book. What I found was some of the most simple-minded text I've ever read. What struck me most was the repetitive nature of, not only the text, but of the situations. I'm assuming anyone reading this will know what the book is about, so I'm going to conserve some energy.
This morning a friend e-mailed me about her reasoning behind the books success and her feeling was that there are way too many women out there who are unhappy with their husbands or boyfriends and those are the types who have this growing infatuation with Christian Grey. She also feels that the amateurish style, in which the book is written, lends to not only people's inability to decipher more difficult text, but allows the reader to plow through these books and reach their, er, climax.
So I began to read a little more and a little more. Literally laughing aloud at the simplistic dialogue and silly plot theme. The repeated use of the phrase "my inner goddess" became as repetitive as a a politicians campaign slogan. The female leads desire to be filled with his "liquid desire." It was as if I was reading that first six grade paper where the teacher allowed us to use dirty words and we couldn't help ourselves. It was silliness to such an extreme, that any eroticism was quickly dispensed with belly laughs. But this blog isn't about the ongoing love of bad writing. It is about the women who crave this and my theories on them.
I believe that despite all the advancements in the workplace and in society in general, the last thing women want is to be equal in the bedroom. Deep down, they want to be taken, with care, but forcefully. They say they want to be caressed sensually, but when it comes down to it, they'd rather be ravaged. I know someone who is extremely ambitious, dependent and incredibly strong willed, but in the bedroom she wants to the role to be reversed. Come to think of it, nearly all the women I've been with have wanted this. No, all the women I've been with have wanted this. I am not saying they want violence. Please do not misconstrue my words. They want a safe aggressiveness. They want true unadulterated passion, but with love and caring in their minds. This is not to say that afterwards, they don't want that person to comfort them, but not during sex.
Deep down, I think all women, in some way want to be kept. I think in many ways, deep down and man who is secure in his sexuality and relationship wants the same thing. There is no man, who doesn't, or wouldn't love to know that while she appreciates the flowers and jewelry, it's being thrown down on the bed and made to enjoy sex, the way a man does, that makes all the difference. Being able to feel confident in one's relationship to push the boundaries in bed, can be magical. To experience first with someone you care about is always better than with a stranger. Think about all of your lives. Your sex life has changed based on so many things, but the biggest changes happen between partners. The actions are basically the same, but it's the comfort that makes all the difference. It's the comfort to make changes, with the same partner, that make sex magical. This is what these books give us and no matter how poorly written, no matter how silly the dialogue, the thing that gets every woman, is the thought that the person they are with, the person they trust and love would do these things that they probably don't normally do, but have always wanted to try. I truly believe we are basically very simple creatures and to experience carnal desires with lessened boundaries and complete satisfaction by both partners, is what we all crave and so many of us lack.
This morning a friend e-mailed me about her reasoning behind the books success and her feeling was that there are way too many women out there who are unhappy with their husbands or boyfriends and those are the types who have this growing infatuation with Christian Grey. She also feels that the amateurish style, in which the book is written, lends to not only people's inability to decipher more difficult text, but allows the reader to plow through these books and reach their, er, climax.
So I began to read a little more and a little more. Literally laughing aloud at the simplistic dialogue and silly plot theme. The repeated use of the phrase "my inner goddess" became as repetitive as a a politicians campaign slogan. The female leads desire to be filled with his "liquid desire." It was as if I was reading that first six grade paper where the teacher allowed us to use dirty words and we couldn't help ourselves. It was silliness to such an extreme, that any eroticism was quickly dispensed with belly laughs. But this blog isn't about the ongoing love of bad writing. It is about the women who crave this and my theories on them.
I believe that despite all the advancements in the workplace and in society in general, the last thing women want is to be equal in the bedroom. Deep down, they want to be taken, with care, but forcefully. They say they want to be caressed sensually, but when it comes down to it, they'd rather be ravaged. I know someone who is extremely ambitious, dependent and incredibly strong willed, but in the bedroom she wants to the role to be reversed. Come to think of it, nearly all the women I've been with have wanted this. No, all the women I've been with have wanted this. I am not saying they want violence. Please do not misconstrue my words. They want a safe aggressiveness. They want true unadulterated passion, but with love and caring in their minds. This is not to say that afterwards, they don't want that person to comfort them, but not during sex.
Deep down, I think all women, in some way want to be kept. I think in many ways, deep down and man who is secure in his sexuality and relationship wants the same thing. There is no man, who doesn't, or wouldn't love to know that while she appreciates the flowers and jewelry, it's being thrown down on the bed and made to enjoy sex, the way a man does, that makes all the difference. Being able to feel confident in one's relationship to push the boundaries in bed, can be magical. To experience first with someone you care about is always better than with a stranger. Think about all of your lives. Your sex life has changed based on so many things, but the biggest changes happen between partners. The actions are basically the same, but it's the comfort that makes all the difference. It's the comfort to make changes, with the same partner, that make sex magical. This is what these books give us and no matter how poorly written, no matter how silly the dialogue, the thing that gets every woman, is the thought that the person they are with, the person they trust and love would do these things that they probably don't normally do, but have always wanted to try. I truly believe we are basically very simple creatures and to experience carnal desires with lessened boundaries and complete satisfaction by both partners, is what we all crave and so many of us lack.
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