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Mirror-less

I have found that most people live in mirror-less homes. They wake up, feeling as if they are the only people who must rise out of bed, go through whatever routine or ritual they need to get ready, and then make sure everyone who is around them is fully aware of the burdens they are about to embark on. The rest of us?

Well. despite what we may have to do, endure, maybe even overcome, we just don't understand. Somehow, no matter how many hours of travel, work, chores, and personal errands we must do, they view their time being used as integral to the Earth's continued spin on its axis. The sun rises with these people, despite the rest of us watching it do so, while they slumber, awaiting the ring of an alarm. They worked all day, despite their work clothes rotating and drying at 6 PM, while we're just getting home. They take two hours to cook an instant meal and the TV runs, while we're finally fixing our dinner. Then, of course, there are our flaws.

Our flaws are apparent to all, despite us never hearing about them until they decide to fix us, while theirs, apparent to all, are viewed internally as strengths. These people will notice your single crumb while stepping over a pile of trash. They will clean around your mess, while finally getting to theirs. Dirt tracked in is from your shoes, as theirs never touch the ground. Coats find their way onto doorknobs and backs of chairs, because the closet wasn't in their time constraints, as they sip tea or a cocktail with their feet up on the sofa.

The one thing I've noticed about these people isn't the obvious, but the subtle. The odd inflections in their voice, telling me that their subconscious is fully aware they are criticizing themselves. The incessant self-praise (yes, this is becoming a blog trend) is a buffer for their own reality. Now while none of us are perfect, many of us spend way too much time staring into that metaphorical mirror, too weary from over-thinking and evaluating our own deficiencies to ever think about confronting others on their laziness or ineptitude for daily tasks we all view as essential. You know people have hit the proverbial rock bottom when breathing becomes an arduous task. When this natural act is constantly and consistently accompanied by forced coughs, huge exhales, moans, and sighs, one has to wonder who has really had a harder day. One especially has to wonder this, when it occurs before they've even left the house.

We all have a story to tell and we've all experienced our share, but those of us with mirrors in our "homes" have used those to make us stronger, not bring us, and especially not others, down.

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