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#100DaysOfHopper Day 9-14 (sort of) Facebook Is Editing Me

Day 9: Politics aside

5 Taliban for 1 US soldier!
This man was a deserter.
His father spoke Arabic at the WH!
His father looks like a terrorist!
This is the USA, Obama!
We don't negotiate with terrorists!

Now imagine it was your son, your daughter, your brother or sister, your father or mother, your friend and you just got them back.

Still outraged?


Day 10 is also missing....hmmm?

 
Day 11: Prom Season. Ahh, that time of year when men in their 40's beam with pride at the beautiful daughters and handsome sons. Then along comes me to remind them of just how sketchy dad was at 18. How they put more planning into getting into so and so's pants than into four years of high school. How they took pride in the manipulation, the deceit and other less than chivalrous qualities. That smile changes.

Now, I'm not saying it's not a wonderful time and that at 18 I was any different, but I never saw the need to attend such silly affairs. I also wasn't that desperate to feel the need to spend all kinds of money with the hope that my date would get drunk and become a porn star. Sorry, but that's pretty much what guys think. I just had too much respect for anyone I wanted to be with to enter into that charade.

Which leads me to the point of this. If you have s daughter you teach her to be smart, to be safe and to use good judgment, but what about your sons? There's the dad that hands his kid a condom, some extra cash and a pat on the back, but what does that teach? How many fathers sit their sons down and lecture them on respect, courtesy and women's rights? How many men tell their boys that being passed out doesn't equal consent? How many boys understand the definition of NO doesn't mean in a little while or until I get tired of your nagging? I didn't go to the prom, but mine father told me these, as did my mother.

We have developed a culture in this country that degrades women and disrespects them. For years, men hsvevfelt that their libidos were more important than a woman's choices. That it was their right to have their way on prom night, in some kind of medieval ownership of manhood. A real man doesn't expect anything and respects a woman. Your 18 year old is still a boy, if he hasn't learned these lessons yet. Sadly, it might not be his fault, as he may a father who is nothing more than a boy himself. #100DaysOfHopper


A few more vanished into Facebook Air

 
Day 14 (didn't have time yesterday): It's summertime and everyone is making their last ditch effort to get skinny enough to look good in a bikini or other kind of bathing suit. Diets, exercise, etc is in motion. So you stress your body physically, mentally & nutritionally for a "greater" good.

Did you know that skin cancer is the most common form of cancer and one in five people will get some form of it in their lifetime? Did you know Caucasians have a higher rate than others? Did you know that one bad burn increases your chance of melanoma? Did you know 1 person dies every hour in the United States from skin cancer? Did you know that nearly .05-1% of the US will get skin cancer and of these people.

So maybe eating that bun, skipping that gym day or whatever else it may be, just so you can soak up some rays and look good doing it, isn't going to kill you. Maybe it'll save you. #100DaysOfHopper

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