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47: Funny how I'm always being abused for my music choices. I've been
playing Robin Thicke for ten years and then Blurred Lines comes out and
everyone's a fan. I was playing Let's Dance before anyone knew what a
Gaga was and I got ridiculed for playing an Elton John cover by this
girl named Ellie. But because I don't like the hipster trinity of DMB,
Vampire Weekend & Arcade Fire (btw, even hipsters can't stand DMB
anymore), I don't know music. Yes, I genuinely like the Spice Girls,
Hanson & Justin Timberlake, but I was saying Justin Timberlake was
the most talented performer on the planet in 2002. But what do I know? #100DaysOfHopper
Day 48: How much do we really care about our friends, our family and our loved ones? My guess would be a lot. But what about when they resort to Facebook for attention, good or bad? Do we take their cries for help or their claims of bliss as seriously? I joke often about people claiming the world is ending one day and then posting things such as "enlightened," "namaste" and "feeling blessed" the next. How does this happen and is it real?
Here's the thing that concerns me. It's not funny, it's not sad, it's very serious it accurate. Emotional states that change this frequently and to such extremes is a mental disorder. Many times the seasons cause us to fluctuate, especially feeling the doom and gloom of the light-less winter and the highs of the sunny summer. There are other hormonal issues some of us face and others, just handle the stress of every day life differently. That being said, our core emotions should not fluctuate to the point where someone is giving up hope one day and feeling like they are lost in an abyss, only to be followed seven hours later with feelings of euphoria and embraced by the love of family, friends and god. This, despite it sounding good on Facebook, is a terrible sign.
Over the years, I've lost a few people to suicide and a few more to illness due to depression. I've also known quite a few who have acted on the impulses unsuccessfully. Sometimes it's a cry for help and other times it's a failed attempt at their final solution. this troubles me, for the ones who have achieved their goal, left holes in the families and friend's hearts that do not mend. When I think back at those I've lost, I think of beautiful smiles, tons of laughter and in one instance a man I owe my having a brother to. I can't imagine, had these decisions been made earlier, just how much I'd have lost.
I make a lot of stupid jokes and I love to antagonize, but there are people out there who are hurting. They may simply be crying wolf or be the attention whores I love to call out and have been called, but their pain might also be real. If you have a friend or loved one whose moods change like the wind, it may be a lot more than just a status, but a need for real help. More than you or I can give. Remember, the boy who cried wolf might have driven people crazy, but that one time, there actually was a wolf. #100DaysOfHopper
Day 49: Today is the first day, I don't have much to say. So I'm just going to talk about a few things based on scrolling down the old timeline. Yes, obviously, if you posted something that resembles this, it is probably about you.
If your relationship goes bad and your gut reaction is to bash the person on Facebook, realize that you've basically told that person, while their decisions have caused your breakup, your decision guarantees that any reconciliation is not possible. Remember, your friends will most likely say derogatory things about your new ex, in an effort to comfort you, basically alienated them from that person you once told you loved. The real item is your heart. If you truly loved that person, one moment of sorrow or even hatred, would never compel you to react this way. Accept that it never truly was love and move on.
If you feel the need to share your financial woes with the world. If you complain of being a single parent, only working part time or being unemployed, it's best not to throw up pictures of all the places you dine out at, your beach home, even if only a rental and your children's excesses. While I realize, we make sacrifices every day, myself included, it tells us all that your real problem isn't money, it's common sense.
If your anger of any given political party's motives or actions brings you to post a story or a headline, be sure that you've actually checked to make sure it's factual. This morning alone I could have factually buried three people. Three people who constantly post "patriotic" bullshit, now actually understanding how government works or the realities of what has happened. There is a popular meme going around bashing Obama for his treatment of veterans, yet, none of them explain that the $21billion in budget cuts for veteran's health care was written in by none other than Paul Ryan. Knowing this and still posting it as a pro-conservative chest pound, shows you either lack intelligence or you're brainwashed. Also, if you are so angry about immigrant children coming to our country in search of a better life, may I please ask you to take down your Irish, Italian, Portuguese, Greek, Russian, Spanish or whatever other flag you call your homeland's and please tell nonna or yaya or granny to learn our language properly, since that seems to be your war cry. Dial 2 to speak to your grandparents!
Finally, stop saying you want to meet a nice guy or a nice girl, when you're more shallow than the kiddie pool at Lake Isle. If you wanted to meet someone nice, you wouldn't be hanging out at clubs or only dating people based on their jobs, where they live or what they look like. Yes, of course physical attraction is important, but have any of you been in a long term relationship? You look at the same person every day and while they may stay as beautiful in your minds eye as the day you met, it is usually due to their intellect, sense of adventure and humor and very rarely because they still look the same. We all get grey, wrinkled and find places on our bodies that weren't there when we were younger, but the reality is, beauty isn't skin deep, it's internal. May you all realize that and find it one day. I know I'm still looking. #100DaysOfHopper
Day 48: How much do we really care about our friends, our family and our loved ones? My guess would be a lot. But what about when they resort to Facebook for attention, good or bad? Do we take their cries for help or their claims of bliss as seriously? I joke often about people claiming the world is ending one day and then posting things such as "enlightened," "namaste" and "feeling blessed" the next. How does this happen and is it real?
Here's the thing that concerns me. It's not funny, it's not sad, it's very serious it accurate. Emotional states that change this frequently and to such extremes is a mental disorder. Many times the seasons cause us to fluctuate, especially feeling the doom and gloom of the light-less winter and the highs of the sunny summer. There are other hormonal issues some of us face and others, just handle the stress of every day life differently. That being said, our core emotions should not fluctuate to the point where someone is giving up hope one day and feeling like they are lost in an abyss, only to be followed seven hours later with feelings of euphoria and embraced by the love of family, friends and god. This, despite it sounding good on Facebook, is a terrible sign.
Over the years, I've lost a few people to suicide and a few more to illness due to depression. I've also known quite a few who have acted on the impulses unsuccessfully. Sometimes it's a cry for help and other times it's a failed attempt at their final solution. this troubles me, for the ones who have achieved their goal, left holes in the families and friend's hearts that do not mend. When I think back at those I've lost, I think of beautiful smiles, tons of laughter and in one instance a man I owe my having a brother to. I can't imagine, had these decisions been made earlier, just how much I'd have lost.
I make a lot of stupid jokes and I love to antagonize, but there are people out there who are hurting. They may simply be crying wolf or be the attention whores I love to call out and have been called, but their pain might also be real. If you have a friend or loved one whose moods change like the wind, it may be a lot more than just a status, but a need for real help. More than you or I can give. Remember, the boy who cried wolf might have driven people crazy, but that one time, there actually was a wolf. #100DaysOfHopper
Day 49: Today is the first day, I don't have much to say. So I'm just going to talk about a few things based on scrolling down the old timeline. Yes, obviously, if you posted something that resembles this, it is probably about you.
If your relationship goes bad and your gut reaction is to bash the person on Facebook, realize that you've basically told that person, while their decisions have caused your breakup, your decision guarantees that any reconciliation is not possible. Remember, your friends will most likely say derogatory things about your new ex, in an effort to comfort you, basically alienated them from that person you once told you loved. The real item is your heart. If you truly loved that person, one moment of sorrow or even hatred, would never compel you to react this way. Accept that it never truly was love and move on.
If you feel the need to share your financial woes with the world. If you complain of being a single parent, only working part time or being unemployed, it's best not to throw up pictures of all the places you dine out at, your beach home, even if only a rental and your children's excesses. While I realize, we make sacrifices every day, myself included, it tells us all that your real problem isn't money, it's common sense.
If your anger of any given political party's motives or actions brings you to post a story or a headline, be sure that you've actually checked to make sure it's factual. This morning alone I could have factually buried three people. Three people who constantly post "patriotic" bullshit, now actually understanding how government works or the realities of what has happened. There is a popular meme going around bashing Obama for his treatment of veterans, yet, none of them explain that the $21billion in budget cuts for veteran's health care was written in by none other than Paul Ryan. Knowing this and still posting it as a pro-conservative chest pound, shows you either lack intelligence or you're brainwashed. Also, if you are so angry about immigrant children coming to our country in search of a better life, may I please ask you to take down your Irish, Italian, Portuguese, Greek, Russian, Spanish or whatever other flag you call your homeland's and please tell nonna or yaya or granny to learn our language properly, since that seems to be your war cry. Dial 2 to speak to your grandparents!
Finally, stop saying you want to meet a nice guy or a nice girl, when you're more shallow than the kiddie pool at Lake Isle. If you wanted to meet someone nice, you wouldn't be hanging out at clubs or only dating people based on their jobs, where they live or what they look like. Yes, of course physical attraction is important, but have any of you been in a long term relationship? You look at the same person every day and while they may stay as beautiful in your minds eye as the day you met, it is usually due to their intellect, sense of adventure and humor and very rarely because they still look the same. We all get grey, wrinkled and find places on our bodies that weren't there when we were younger, but the reality is, beauty isn't skin deep, it's internal. May you all realize that and find it one day. I know I'm still looking. #100DaysOfHopper
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