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Things That Have Come To Light

In the last two weeks I've been traveling the clean and sober road.  While probably not as exciting as the drunk and stupid road, I have had some insights.  Pretty much I've learned (or finally recognized a few things along the way) a few things.  Being I'm in a bit of a rush, I'm going to list them instead of elaborate on them.  Especially since elaborating on the issues has been one of the issues affecting me.  So while hardly exciting, here is what I have learned.

1.  I am not an alcoholic, despite what my writings have shown.  I let drinking affect friendships and motivation recently, but they were for the most part misunderstandings and things are back to normal.

2.  Most of you girls are right.  Pro Football is painfully boring if you aren't hammered and covered in wing sauce.

3.  True friends reach out in times of needs.  Those that don't.  Well.

4.  Don't ever try to be someone you're not while drinking, because the real you gets hidden and that's the person people like.

5.  Don't write blogs and status updates based on drunk emotions, because as clever as you think you may be, the world knows exactly who and what you are talking about and it's not fair to them.  They didn't sign up for it.

6.  Heartache for others makes you realize just how much you care about them.  Heartache for you, makes you realize just how much people care about you.

7.  The loss of life is not to be compared to anything that troubles you in life.

8.  The Kilt's burgers while drunk are delicious.  While sober they are orgasmic.

9.  Staring at someone while you're drunk is creepy.  Staring at someone while you're sober is enchanting.

10.  There is nothing better than a laugh when things are bad.  If even for a few minutes.

11.  The most beautiful moments in life are times spent without talking.

12.  Sometimes people don't have to say they love you for you to know and wanting them to say it will only make them stop.  Hold on to it and cherish it. 

13.  Waking up with a clear head makes the day seem longer, but if good things happen in that day, it's all worth it.

14. One good thing in a night that you remember, is better than 20 good things you don't.

15. Drinking makes you selfish.  It's a desire for self gratification at others expense.  Doing those same actions while sober, you realize you can do for others first and then worry about yourself.

Some of these might sound corny, but I believe them all to be true.  I'm not trying to sound self righteous, but I realize that I was very selfish and confused over the last few months.  This is not to say I will never have a drink, but it does mean, that I will always remember the times I saw clearly.  It's been eye-opening.

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