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What's Worse?

This was actually a Facebook post so you can consider not being friends with me on Facebook the gift that keeps on giving. 

I'm not sure what's worse (Yeah, I know it's a weird follow-up to my happy post), but this time of year, well, it says a lot about a lot of people.

Being selfish with your time when you can be with others or being selfish with your time when you're with others.
Being absent when you could be present or being absent when you are present.
Taking those you care about for granted or getting angry when those you care about take reciprocate this.
Doing enough to make yourself feel good or to not care if you've done enough for another feel good.
Being adequate or accepting it.
Doing it for you or thinking it's about you.
Putting up appearances or thinking that's what it's about.
Thinking quantity is quality or not understanding the quantity of quality matters too.
Thinking you're a role model or ignoring the importance when you are.
Not sayi…
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