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The Importance Of Nothing

Every day of my life I have laughed off serious events that could or did impact my life. That is not to say I did not take them seriously, but I have always looked at things from the "what's the worst case scenario" viewpoint. Now don't misunderstand, I do not go into things assuming failure or even anything other than success, but in my mind I always ask myself, what is the worst that could come of it.

So, you'd assume I'm going to talk about something bad happening. Nope, that is not at all the case. What I've noticed recently is that people all around me put so much importance in nothing.  The weather, the traffic, what to have for dinner, is my kid dressed warmly enough, etc. Listen, I get safety, health and the enjoyment of life, but the stress over every little thing in life, doesn't only affect the one doing it, but it tears at those of us who don't really care. I'm not saying we don't care about those we love and are friends with, but we don't care about every little hurdle they imagine.

Here's where I do something hypocritical. I can't stand people who are cryptic, but I can't give examples, because those who read may feel I'm betraying a trust or some of you vain people out there may believe this song is about you. If you like a girl and you want to ask her out. I will support your effort all you want, but don't ask me to date her friend. If you need me to watch your kids, while you go to a job interview, I'd be happy, but don't tell me you stopped for a drink and lunch with friends after. These examples aren't close to what I'm really talking about, the point is there. Don't expect others to stress with you over something they have no reason, at all, to care about.

The bottom line is that some of us go out of our way for the people we care about, but because we are willing to do almost anything for them, there is that courtesy we ask of them and that is, don't ask us to carry the little loads. Those, I feel are for either acquaintances or the times in life where you go it your own. Sometimes when you're asking so little of someone and you think "is it so much to ask?' Take a step back and ask yourself. Would they even ask you for so little?

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