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True Friends

The rice was sticking together.  I hadn't even nuked it to make it warm.  The hot sauce dripped from the chicken and I chewed around the bones to get every last bite.  Hot coffee was probably not the drink to be washing it down with, but I was in the mood.  I was tired, back sore from an ailment I'm not sure of.  I saw a little screen pop up on my computer and saw the tiny picture of an old friend. 

The chat was brief, but telling. Two years has gone by since we last spoke.  We've e-mailed once or twice and maybe exchanged pleasantries via Facebook, but that is all.  He ended the conversation with a few sentences I don't care to share.  He reminded me what true friendship is all about.  I needed that.

True friends don't need booze to have a good time.  Acquaintances need that.  True friends don't need sex.  That's what we need when we run out of things to talk about.  True friends don't need to speak, because the thoughts are there when we're not.  True friends don't even need to see each other, because the next time will be as good as the last.  True friends know.

It made me realize that true friends wouldn't lie to us.  They wouldn't cheat on us.  They wouldn't ignore us when we're down, no matter what the circumstances.  True friends might not always be able to be there for us when things are rough, but that's because we know deep down things aren't as bad as they seem.  We don't go to them when things aren't going our way, we go to them in times of need.  They are always there for us, but we don't burden them with the petty.

I've gone through what I've felt is a bad point in my life.  I have been in a funk.  Financially, emotionally and physically.  It dawned on me today, I haven't reached out to any of those friends.  I haven't reached out to family really.  They are there for me when it really gets bad.  Why bother them with what isn't important.   Today a friend, a true friend, reminded me that we are so few.  The special ones, who are there when they're not.  Always!

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