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Treat It Like What?

I'm sitting outside, listening to the buzz of crickets right now.  It's a warm September night and the sky leads me to believe that rain is on it's way;  I'm not at my house, but on the porch of a friend.  I'm feeding her cats and due to my desire to do some laundry, I'm also house-sitting.  She wasn't so keen on the house-sitting aspect, because we're somewhat involved and there are some trust issues.  So while I sit alone, sipping a cold glass of water, she's partying it up in Newport.  Tomorrow will be her first day back since Tuesday and aside from receiving a key Tuesday afternoon, we've not really hung out at all the past week.  The reasons, for this tale, aren't important, but I eagerly await her return.

While speaking briefly with an older neighbor of mine, she said, "you have to treat new relationships at your age like you're new divorcees."  She went on to explain that by the time you hit forty, neither of you are experiencing things for the first time.  You both have pasts, both have baggage and both in many cases are left dead and buried/  When you're young, you want to know everything about a person, but as time goes on, there may be things better left unsaid. She's correct. 

By forty, you have preconceived notions of what a person should or shouldn't be like.  The great thing about humans is we don't always conform to these norms.  Finding out that you're not the best looking, the smartest, the best cook or the best in bed can put a lot of strain on a relationship. At times, just maybe, it's better to enjoy the present and let the past be just that.  Trust me when I tell you it's easier said than done, but if at all possible, reach hold of the present and don't let it go, because it may just end up being a wonderful future that you would have lost by asking too many questions.

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